This is certainly the worst week of my life!

Helen Patricial Thatcher

Friday, family, and friends buried my beautiful Mother in a wonderful ceremony. It was a moving, sad and emotional experience full of love for my Mother.

Yesterday afternoon my Father collapsed suffering from a heart attack. My nephew Dennis Runkowski and I performed CPR for about 7 minutes until the EMT’s arrived — they were fast efficient and very professional. They stabilized him and rushed to the hospital. He has been lying in the CVICU in a drug-induced coma since arriving.

This afternoon they started bringing his core temperature back up to 37ºC, they will then stop the drugs that are keeping him in a coma. We are all hopeful that after this process he will open his eyes, be alert, bitch that he is hungry and wanting to go home. This has been one of the most distraught weeks I have every experienced.

Please keep him in your thoughts, tomorrow is going to be a very big day and I hope it ends in smiles.

The doctor told us that he is suffering from a broken heart. 🙁 He loved my Mother intensely as she loved him. Here are some picture of family and friends gathering after Friday’s service for my Mom.

In Loving Memory of Helen Thatcher 1938-2016

Helen Thatcher

Helen Pat ThatcherHome Town: Ocean Isle Beach
Date of Death: 05/24/2016
Birth Place: Brooklyn NY
Birth Date: 08/18/1938
Service Date: 05/27/2016 at 10:00 AM
Service Place: Saint Brendans the Navigator Catholic Church
Interment: St. Brendans Columbarium

In the face of such great loss, what can be certain is that Pat, Pepper, Nan, Mom, or any nickname she acquired that carved her relationship to the sayer of such name, was an immensely strong woman with a profound faith.

It is with great sorrow to announce that Helen Thatcher, 77, passed away on Tuesday, May 24, 2016. Helen, known to most as Pat, was born on August 18, 1938 to Charles and Helen Connell Mack. Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY..

After attending St. Brendans HS in Brooklyn, Pat began working for Western Electric in New York City. Pat met Samuel Thatcher, who would soon become her beloved, at a picnic in Breezy Point, when she was 19. They instantly realized they were soulmates and married soon after they met. It was in this partnership that they would don the nicknames, Salt and Pepper, from one of their sons; names such as these can only highlight the love and support Sam and Pat gave one another throughout their lives together. Soon after their marriage, Sam and Pat, knowing their love could reach wide and far depths, added five children to their family: Marybeth, Kathleen, Bryan, Michael and Robert.

The choice to move the family from Brooklyn to Highland Mills, NY, was tough for Pat, but one she never regretted. She quickly settled in and began work for the NY State DMV. She worked hard and became the assistant director of several DMV offices in the state. Pat was very focused on and dedicated to raising her children and becoming an active part of her community. She put much of that fierce passion for community into her work with Saint Patrick’s Roman Catholic Church, as she was, herself, a devout Catholic.

As Pat’s children grew and graduated from college, her and Sam found a passion in the sport of golf. Their combined love of the sport eventually brought them into a new phase of their life; Sam and Pat moved to Ocean Isle Beach, NC in 2003, spending quality time together on the golf course and making many new friends.

She is survived by her husband, Samuel Thatcher, and her children, Marybeth Runkowski, and husband, Dennis; Kathleen Thatcher, and fiancé, Chris Sharpe; Bryan Thatcher; and Robert Thatcher, and wife, Lenore; five grandchildren will always remember her warm, boundless laugh and prominent mentorship in their formative years: Samantha and fiancé, Patrick Choules; Dennis; Kassandra; Brendan; and Emily. She will always be loved by her entire family, along with her many, dear friends.

In the words from 2 Corinthians 4:16-18: “…We do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

Nan, though now you are eternally unseen, you are, for me and for the rest of your children, grandchildren, and friends, a light, a source of glory, in our collective memory. May you live in peace and happiness in heaven.

The family request in lieu of flowers memorials may be directed to The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, 3 International Drive, Suite 200, Rye Brook, NY 10573 or Make-A-Wish at Hudson Valley, 832 South Broadway, The Wish House, Tarrytown, NY 10591.

Private online condolences may be sent to the family at www.brunswickfuneralservice.com.
Brunswick Funeral Service, Shallotte.

Milton Glaser; Ten Things I Have Learned

I came across this list from a random tweet I followed and felt I had to repost it. This is from a talk Glaser had at the AIGA London in 2001, it is still very relevant today, that is the beauty of Glaser. His work thought his career is as relevant and fresh today as it was then.

See the full essay here, I shortened it for brevity!

Milton Glaser; Ten Things I Have Learned
Part of AIGA Talk in London
November 22, 2001

1
YOU CAN ONLY WORK FOR PEOPLE THAT YOU LIKE.
I discovered that all the work I had done that was meaningful and significant came out of an affectionate relationship with a client.

2
IF YOU HAVE A CHOICE NEVER HAVE A JOB.
I wake up every morning and I think how am I going to put bread on the table today? I am exceedingly well prepared for my old age.

3
SOME PEOPLE ARE TOXIC AVOID THEM.
You have spent some time with this person, either you have a drink or go for dinner or you go to a ball game. It doesn’t matter very much but at the end of that time you observe whether you are more energised or less energised. Whether you are tired or whether you are exhilarated. If you are more tired then you have been poisoned. If you have more energy you have been nourished. The test is almost infallible and I suggest that you use it for the rest of your life.

4
PROFESSIONALISM IS NOT ENOUGH or THE GOOD IS THE ENEMY OF THE GREAT.
I discovered after working for a while that professionalism itself was a limitation. After all, what professionalism means in most cases is diminishing risks.

5
LESS IS NOT NECESSARILY MORE.
I have an alternative to the proposition that I believe is more appropriate. “Just enough is more.”

6
STYLE IS NOT TO BE TRUSTED.
It’s absurd to be loyal to a style. It does not deserve your loyalty.

7
HOW YOU LIVE CHANGES YOUR BRAIN.
I am a great advocate of drawing, not in order to become an illustrator, but because I believe drawing changes the brain in the same way as the search to create the right note changes the brain of a violinist. Drawing also makes you attentive. It makes you pay attention to what you are looking at, which is not so easy.

8
DOUBT IS BETTER THAN CERTAINTY.
Everyone always talks about confidence in believing what you do. I remember once going to a class in yoga where the teacher said that, spirituality speaking, if you believed that you had achieved enlightenment you have merely arrived at your limitation.

9
ON AGING.
Rule number one is that — it doesn’t matter. — It doesn’t matter that what you think. Follow this rule and it will add decades to your life.

10
TELL THE TRUTH.
We can accept certain kinds of misrepresentation, such as fudging about the amount of fat in his hamburger but once a butcher knowingly sells us spoiled meat we go elsewhere. As a designer, do we have less responsibility to our public than a butcher?

Cluetrain A Day for 2009

My Friend @alexknowshtml aka Alex Hillman has taken on an awesome ambitious project on his blog dangerouslyawesome of summarizing each of the 95 theses of The Cluetrain Manifesto. This is both in celebration of the 10th anniversary of the Cluetrain and to incite people into discussion. Wow, so far it has been great, I’m spreading the word on making this a daily stop on the internetz for all.

I figure the first 3 months of the year is a pretty solid commitment to anything. Lucky for me, I’m not committing to the gym, or to eat better (though I hope to do that anyway). I’m committing to working my way through the 95 theses of The Cluetrain Manifesto to riff, expound, and hopefully ask new questions about what they mean today.

This is a must read if you are concerned with your future and your own success